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I am on a mission to elevate the beauty of Christian marriage by awakening wives, husbands, and church leaders to the plight of abuse, and to show them that there is a better way. And when the better way can’t be reached due to pride or unrepentance, I will hold out hope that grace is there to lead the way and cover over.  And I do all this by creating resources that help hurting women by bringing them hope.

A Place for Us
If you are in a difficult marriage or find yourself going through a difficult divorce, I have created two private groups on Facebook that I would like to invite you to. Simply email me at, let me know if you’re interested in the married group or separated/divorced group, then send me a friend request on Facebook ( If you’re in need of some encouragement or additional support, I invite you to join us.

I also have the following additional private Facebook group for women:
A Place for Us – Restoring: for women whose marriages have turned the corner into restoration and reconciliation.
A Place for Us – Single Moms: for women who would like some additional support in their solo mothering journeys.
A Place for Us – Remarriage: for women who are in a subsequent marriage and are needing support to adjust.
A Place for Us – Dating after Divorce: this group is accessible as a bonus feature to the e-book, Dating after Divorce.

Email me if interested.

Though I am not a pastor or counselor,
I have a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Trinity College in Deerfield, Illinois.
I lived in a difficult marriage for almost nineteen years, and dealt with abuse and addiction issues on a daily basis.
I have been a writer and speaker since 2001, speaking to over 6500 women.
I attended AlAnon for over a year-and-a-half, and went through the 12 steps.
I was on staff over small groups and women’s ministry at my former church, and I now lead small groups at my current church home.
I’ve attended Celebrate Recovery.
I have worked with a mentor for over five years.
I have attended counseling on and off throughout the past twenty years.
I willingly submitted myself to a fifteen-month church-led reconciliation attempt under the authority of my church leadership, where eight Christ-following adults came around my then-husband and me to help us keep our marriage from ending.
I was released by that church leadership to legally separate, and three months later, my then-husband counter-filed for divorce.
I attended DivorceCare.
I was a member of a local church’s Domestic Violence Awareness Ministry.
I have met one-on-one with many local women who are in difficult marriages or who are divorced.
I have written on abuse, difficult marriage, addiction, divorce, and single parenting on many websites, including People of the Second Chance, Grace for Moms, Crosswalk and Leadership Journal.
I have written several books and e-books on these topics, including Unraveling: Hanging onto Faith through the End of a Christian Marriage (Abingdon).
I have led small groups for women in difficult Christian marriages and for women who are going through divorce.
I created a retreat specifically for separated and divorced women.
I have been divorced for over three years.
I was a single mother for over three years, and raised – for all intents and purposes, on my own – two children through the middle school to the high school and now college years.
For over three years, I have moderated several private Facebook group communities of almost two thousand women in difficult marriages, those going through divorce, and single moms.
I navigated the sometimes tricky online dating scene.
I met a good, good man and was remarried in May of 2015.
I have co-lead with my husband a small group of men and women through divorce.
I have participated in People of the Second Chance’s Rescue Lab, training for people who are in the ministry of walking alongside people in pain.
I created and moderate two virtual courses, MarriageMentor & DivorceMentor, walking women through their pain and into their next steps of healing and wholeness.

All this to say, first and foremost, I’ve been where you are. I have walked in your shoes. I am not someone sitting in an office giving advice who has never experienced what you are experiencing. I have been there and I have felt what you are feeling and lived to tell about it.

And secondly, I have asked God again and again to take my pain and use it to help others, and I believe that’s what he’s allowing me to do.

I know women. I know pain.  I know and love Jesus.  And I want to help bring hope to you.

What I share here and in any other arena is my opinion and not personal counsel. I will never outright tell anyone to divorce. I will always remain 100% pro-marriage.

If you are a hurting woman in any area of your life, this is the advice I can give you with all confidence, no matter your situation and no matter my situation:
1. Pray for guidance.
2. Read Scripture.
3. Surround yourself with varied wise counsel, such as a church family, a pastor or church leader that you trust, a small group Bible study, a recovery group, and/or a Christian counselor.


Resource List

National Abuse Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
Need a safe place to stay?

60-Seconds of Encouragement: my webcasts that touch on sadness, loneliness, confusion, fear & more

For women who are in difficult marriages:
Sign up for MarriageMentor, a three-month virtual course with one-on-one interaction with Elisabeth and weekly assignments.
Surviving in a Difficult Christian Marriage: Questions & Suggestions by Elisabeth Klein
World Split Open by Elisabeth Klein
The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick
The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans
How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong by Leslie Vernick
Boundaries in Marriage by Cloud & Townsend
Thriving Despite a Difficult Marriage by Michael Misja
Foolproofing Your Life by Jan Silvious
Love Isn’t Supposed to Hurt by Christi Paul
Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft
Every Heart Restored by Steve Arterburn
Necessary Endings by Henry Cloud
Divorce and Remarriage in the Church by David Instone-Brewer
Power & Control Wheel of Abuse
Domestic Abuse bible studies
Celebrate Recovery
Christian Counselor finder
Safety Plan 

For women who are separated/divorced:
Sign up for DivorceMentor, a three-month virtual course with one-on-one interaction with Elisabeth and weekly assignments.
Unraveling: Hanging onto Faith through the End of a Christian Marriage by Elisabeth Klein
Living through Divorce as a Christian Woman by Elisabeth Klein
When I Do Becomes I Don’t: Practical Steps During Separation and Divorce by Laura Petherbridge
Flying Solo: A Journey of Divorce, Healing & A Very Present God by Denise Hildreth-Jones
Divorce and Remarriage in the Church by David Instone-Brewer
Freeway by Mike Foster
Legal help

For women who are now single parenting:
Moving On as a Single Christian Mom by Elisabeth Klein
Raising Great Kids on Your Own: A Guide and Companion for Every Single Parent by David & Lisa Frisbee
My Single Mom Life: Stories and Practical Lessons for Your Journey by Angela Thomas
Now What Do I Do?: A Guide to Help Teenagers with Their Parents’ Divorce by Lynn Cassella-Kapusinski (a tool in helping parents communicate)

The Sacred Search by Gary Thomas
Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts by Les & Leslie Parrott
Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts workbook by Les & Leslie Parrott
101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married by H. Norman Wright
Is This the One: Insightful Dates for Finding the Love of Your Life by Stephen Arterburn

For church leaders:
A Cry for Justice by Jeff Crippen & Anna Wood
No Place for Abuse: Biblical and Practical Resources to Counteract Domestic Violence by Catherine Clark Kroeger
Divorce and Remarriage in the Church by David Instone-Brewer
The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick  (Though this is for women in difficult marriages it would be an excellent resource to have on hand to give out, or to understand the inner workings of an abusive relationship.)
Mending the Soul Ministries

Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott
On Writing by Stephen King
The Getaway Car: A Practical Memoir About Writing and Life by Ann Patchett
You are a Writer by Jeff Goins
The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

My favorite non-hard-marriage/non-divorce/non-heavy/sometimes-you-can-actually-just-read-for-fun books:
(*Disclaimer: it is totally okay to love a book or a style of writing and not believe in the same things the author believes in…honestly…)
Carry On Warrior by Glennon Melton
Traveling Mercies by Anne Lamott
Blue Like Jazz by Donald Miller
Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn
Bittersweet by Shauna Niequist
Bossypants by Tina Fey
Is Everyone Hanging Out without Me? by Mindy Kaling
Permission to Speak Freely by Anne Jackson
Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert