I received a Facebook message from a dear woman who is a member of my private group for separated/divorced woman that read:
“I should be happy for you…for being where you are headed…back to marital bliss. And I am very happy for you and truly wish you well. It’s just that a time like this I wish I were you. I feel like I am one of those hurting women who had looked up to and had started soaking in your wisdom, then you are moving away again. I know I am not right feeling this way…you’ve never met me or known me. Despite all my whining…I really wish you God’s blessings in your union. May God continue using you greatly in this life. And truly am sorry if I have crossed the line, dear Elisabeth.”
This is so precious to me.
First of all, I one thousand zillion percent get where she’s coming from. During my hard marriage, it was difficult for me to hear stories of women in good marriages (which I was surrounded by as my closest girlfriends are all in good, good marriages). Then during my divorce, it was hard for me to hear of a woman finding a second chance with a good man. It felt out of my grasp. It felt cruel, as if God or life were keeping something so sweet just out of reach. So I totally get this part. And, sweet one, I think it’s pretty darn normal. No apologies necessary.
But secondly, as far as “moving away” now that I’m getting remarried. I can see where some of my readers might think that. My writing has progressed through the stages of my hard marriage and separation and […]